Holy fucking Christ I cannot believe how insane some people are it is unreal. What the hell am I talking about this time? Ladies and gentlemen, let me inform you; goodhearted -versus getting walked all over a.k.a. -> Abuse;to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way; including other individuals and ones-self.
I could give you a thousand different reasons as to the contrasts between a kindhearted person and someone being completely unrealistic; which ends in someone's excruciating pain, and, or in the steady supply of unnecessary stress.At this point l do not believe that this would be helpful and instead I shall be using the three examples that are standing out like an elephant walking through a shopping center. Trust me it shoots out at you to the point of no return; you may try to ignore it, but the more you hide the easier it eats at you as if it were a cannibal eating his final meal.
PROOF 1
Sweet; a gal I know is having her crazy needy friend come over. Well better she deal with it than I; neediness is so unattractive especially when it is to the point where restraining orders should probably be involved. She is sneaking in miss needy in her dorm where one of there rules is; no sleepover guests. Yet to help her supposed friend out she is going to hide her out there until she heads back which is at least a month. How does miss needy repay the genuine gesture and hospitality of my close friend; she tells her that she is bringing a guy and he is staying too. She lets this slide and does not even speak out or state that it is unacceptable. Even though there is a huge possibility that as a consequence to miss needy's actions that she may be evicted from her only living space.Good friend or nothing but a user?
PROOF 2
Example two is a novel involving an extremely wise and mature young man; with whom I have been lucky enough to work with as well as confide in as a trustful friend.Einstein's story is definitely an entertaining one ; his ex-girlfriend lends his mom and family money, and so he decides he owes her everything that is his.And so it happens she asks to move in with him into his bachelor suite; which normally consists of one room where your bed goes; there is the tiniest version of a kitchen ever possible and a small door that leads to a bathroom tucked away in the corner. Now, to me l wouldn't even want a roommate in this type of living situation and yet he was thinking not only of a girlie; but instead considering having his ex-girlfriend, stay there. Not for a night or even a week but half of a year, that's one- hundred and eighty two days. Are you kidding? Einstein makes his decision and confirms that he definitely will take her in.
Four o'clock in the morning and I am driving my dead tired ass over to his place; I am going to put this insane idea to a complete halt. I have my mission I am a mercenary I will sacrifice all of my time until this beautiful mind understands my point of view and perception that hopefully leads to his revelation. Also known as an epiphany: Bad fucking idea stop now. Four and a half hours later he and I have discussed this topic and every other topic underneath the sun until we were blue in the face I had done it. I had won he had realized that although she had done a good thing for his family that did not mean that he had to nor did it even partially justify his thought process of letting her stay with him and turn his reality upside down. To be one hundred percent serious though I did not win I just explained intensely and thoroughly that there were more sufficient ways in which he could still help her that would not make him sacrifice everything that he had learned and gained since the ending of their prior relationship. For example one of the new options that I had pushed as a more reasonable and ideal possibility was to help her find a place to stay with a friend or acquaintance of his.
Four o'clock in the morning and I am driving my dead tired ass over to his place; I am going to put this insane idea to a complete halt. I have my mission I am a mercenary I will sacrifice all of my time until this beautiful mind understands my point of view and perception that hopefully leads to his revelation. Also known as an epiphany: Bad fucking idea stop now. Four and a half hours later he and I have discussed this topic and every other topic underneath the sun until we were blue in the face I had done it. I had won he had realized that although she had done a good thing for his family that did not mean that he had to nor did it even partially justify his thought process of letting her stay with him and turn his reality upside down. To be one hundred percent serious though I did not win I just explained intensely and thoroughly that there were more sufficient ways in which he could still help her that would not make him sacrifice everything that he had learned and gained since the ending of their prior relationship. For example one of the new options that I had pushed as a more reasonable and ideal possibility was to help her find a place to stay with a friend or acquaintance of his.
PROOF 3
On the other side of the spectrum yes you got it stay on topic; women. Actually one in-particular; definitely another close friend of mine and once again someone I am content to say is in my life but sometimes she is; lets say; silly. I do not know her ex-boyfriend and as a well diverse man I choose not to pass judgment on anyone until I have witnessed it firsthand and more than once but also I would not sink down to the childish level to bash anyone; no time for that garbage. However everything I have heard from my friend has painted a dark disgusting and depressing picture of a person who uses, abuses, and actually enjoys hurting others.
This brilliant woman put herself through years of his torture; accepting his apologies repeatedly over and over believing that their love was well-worth it and that the pain she endured would make them stronger. Incorrect this great amazing character of a man dumped her when she had to move to her dream school. His girl was doing exceptionally well and had her greatest fantasies coming true and so he decides he has to throw her out like a bag of trash. Over the course of the next two years her ex abused her in more ways than I even feel like exposing everyone to. Absolutely repulsive. And yet she still had the psychotic idea to send him a text saying "How are you?".
This brilliant woman put herself through years of his torture; accepting his apologies repeatedly over and over believing that their love was well-worth it and that the pain she endured would make them stronger. Incorrect this great amazing character of a man dumped her when she had to move to her dream school. His girl was doing exceptionally well and had her greatest fantasies coming true and so he decides he has to throw her out like a bag of trash. Over the course of the next two years her ex abused her in more ways than I even feel like exposing everyone to. Absolutely repulsive. And yet she still had the psychotic idea to send him a text saying "How are you?".
Come on now you have gotta be fucking joking!
This is the same guy that has fucked her over left right and center; has mistreated her and crushed her heart into a million tiny pieces. How does this make sense? IT DOES NOT AT ALL. Her reasoning was just to see how he was doing; who the fuck cares? Why is it that she believes that she should still care and worry when he never even emotionally cared for her? Or if he did his actions and the way he presented himself in relation to her did not prove this true. She cares just as the above two examples were confident that this was part of being a good person.
There is a Line where a good person ends and the above examples are so far past it; two completely different galaxies.
There is a difference between being a kindhearted person or being in this other realm where a person lets themself sacrifice intolerable items, effort, time; for a false purpose. This is not a good person; a kind hearted person gives to the people who deserve it and does not waste his or her time with the people who are unappreciative or undeserving of his or her heart and feelings. For example one good hearted person may volunteer at a homeless shelter serving food and that person may get to know some of the homeless people but when one ends up killing someone for money this person does not go to see how they are doing in jail; as this person is NOT WORTH THEIR TIME. And as a kindhearted person he or she does not wish to invest on a lost cause as this person knows that there are many people out there that need love.
There are many ways a person will know when they have past this line or are even about to trek through this territory. Right of the bat the individual will have feelings of awkwardness and axiousness as they go too far. Next they will either be told from the people who genuinely and sincerely care for them that what they are doing is ridiculous or the person will just automatically conceal the fact that he or she is going through with the next operations and actions.
In the end it comes down to one question; in which you must remove your personal biases and feelings; walk a mile in the audience's shoes; how would you feel if your *sister*(*insert anyone you love with all your heart and who will fit into the situation that you are in) decided to follow through with what you are doing after she had been through the past that you had with that person?
Also remember you can only be as good as the worst people around you. Your family and friends and even acquaintances can bring you up or be your downward spiral. You are in control and you get to choose who joins your life and for how long; so choose wisely. Do not let others walk all over you it is hard for people to see and even harder on yourself.
Chow,
Jesse
In the end it comes down to one question; in which you must remove your personal biases and feelings; walk a mile in the audience's shoes; how would you feel if your *sister*(*insert anyone you love with all your heart and who will fit into the situation that you are in) decided to follow through with what you are doing after she had been through the past that you had with that person?
And hopefully after you have asked yourself this question; honestly, seriously, and truthfully, you will see unimpeded, unobstructed, and
CRYSTAL CLEAR.
CRYSTAL CLEAR.
Chow,
Jesse
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