P.B. Versus The "One"

Before I begin this will be a two piece topic, the first piece shall discuss the different variations in the thought process of these two beliefs while the second piece will be discussing when a person should get into a relationship and the prerequisites I see that are needed as a foundation to a happy and successful relationship.The second piece will be entitled "Prerequisites to a P.B.". With that being said here is part one.

Nope not peanut butter at least that is not what we will be discussing today. Instead Pair Bonding versus the "One" and how perspective changes depending on which one you believe in. Perspective is more than just your thoughts on this though as the thoughts you harbor in your mind change the way you act and speak which ends up changing people's reactions to you.


Pair bonding is the belief that through out this world there are many individuals of whom you are attracted to and can have a solid happy relationship with. These people come and go at random times and it is you and that person who decide if it works or not. It all depends on if you two are willing to make it the content happiness that it can be.

While the "One" is the belief that there is only one specific person out there for you and that fate and destiny are in control of it. Or maybe even someone's god will make sure that the cards land in your hand.


Personally pair bonding is the only option that makes any sense whatsoever. Come on now has fate, destiny, or even god, ever got you to where you wish to be? That school you wanted to go to? That girl you wanted to date? That concert you wanted to see? That job you wanted to have? Or any of the other possible variations of this question that could be asked?


FUCK NO

It takes work! Everything takes work and effort as without any initiative why would you be handed the experience to make you a better person, someone who evolves and can adapt?

I do believe that everyone has experienced the "One" as we are bred by our parents and the media to think this way.

Now that we have an explanation of the two different beliefs let me explain an average relationship in both cases from beginning to break up.

The "One" relationship would consist of the two participants being extremely needy as they both believe that they are always to be in each others lives. It is possible that this relationship would include a lot of hypocrisy in such a way that one partner would be able to do more things than the other. Over time the fighting would get ridiculous however due to the participants' belief systems the two of them would endure this pain for a long period of time. Sooner or later the straw would break the camel's back as the constant fighting and unhappiness would lead to one of the two participants snapping and deciding that it is no longer worth it. And when this relationship ends both parties will go into a huge downfall of negativity as what they believed to be right had just been flushed down the toilet.


A Pair bonding relationship on the other hand is on a more sociological wavelength of thought as both participants know that there are other people out there that can also join with them to build a complete content relationship. Due to this they look at each other as equals and put in the effort needed to keep one another happy. If this relationship stopped being happy on either person's side then it would be discussed and if the happiness did not go up it would end rather quickly. This would happen as the unhappy person would know that nothing had changed and that there were other options out there to be happy with. After the breakup both parties would be awkward and saddened but their belief systems would not be crushed.

Which Perspective Sounds Better to YOU?